Tohutohu ki te Hanga i te Tangata e Hiahia ana ki te Hononga Nui Whakaae rānei, Whakahē: Fafauraa Tohutohu Hononga me Pehea ki te Hanga i te Tangata ki te Mahia he Aha He Tangata Wehi o te Fafauraa

Kotahi te whaia he ki runga, ngaro ia i te moni

Whai tonu koe i whakarongo ki te tohutohu i te iwi e hoatu ki te wahine i runga i pehea ki te hanga i te taata ki te mahi i te hononga nui? Ētahi o aku hoa wahine pinepine te tiki ki te wera te kōrero i te tikanga huri i te tangata rā ratou, i to ratou hoa tamaroa, a tae noa ki to ratou exTe mea te reira e te rite te roa rite ratou kōrero te kore e whai wāhi ki a ratou tika te ranei ara autaki, he tino hōhonu e pā ana ki te hoatu tohutohu ki o ratou hoa wahine, engari ka rite ki te kaupapa o te kōrero tahuri ki to ratou ake āhuatanga ki te tangata, e riro ratou rawakore. Na te aha ko te reira na ngāwari ki te hoatu i te teití, me te tohutohu hononga a, no te koe e te tetahi e tu ana i runga i te waho, e rapu ana i roto i, me te kia pakeke a, no te e ngana ana koe ki te hanga i te whakatau mo to koutou hononga ake ki o koutou tangata. Te mea uaua ki te kite i te pikitia, no te koe e i roto i te anga. Na, kia tango o te titiro tere i te etahi o te hunga e whakaarohia ana ngā tikanga mō te hanga i te tangata te mahi ki te hononga nui, me te whakarārangi i ratou i konei ko te tikanga. Na ka faaite e ahau toku whakaaro ki a koutou me te āhua ranei ahau i whakaae rānei, whakahē, me te ko koe karangatia ki te kōrero i runga i ia tetahi o te hunga ngā, me te tāpiri i te ake o koutou ake. Ki te hiahia koe ki te hanga i te tangata e mahi i te kore e whai takoto ki a ia tae noa ki e mohio ana koe e koe i roto i te hononga nui - Kore. E kore koe e whai ki te tatari mo te marriage ki te riro i moepuku piri ki te taata, engari ki te hiahia koe ki te hanga i mohio e te tangata e moe ana koe ki te he to koutou hoa, tatari ra ano i riro ia koutou hoa, me te ka anake i muri i taua e taea te tīmata koe te takoto he ki a ia. Tenei ka kī taurangi e koe e moe ana ki te tangata e koe i roto i te hononga nui ki te me te ka hoatu e koe te te rangimarie o te ngakau. Tenei ko te mahi e kore e no te mea e ngana ana koe ki te hanga i te tangata te mahi ki te hononga nui. Ko koe anake te mahi i te reira no te koe, kia ka whai koe i te rangimarie o te ngakau. Ki te koe i heoi hiahia ana koe ki te tango tūponotanga, me te moe ki a ia, kahore fafauraa, e koe ki te kia rite mo te mea ki te kore e haere i tou huarahi. Ki te he koe i te raumati ki te e, te haere i mua, me te moe ki a ia, no te hiahia koe ki te. Ko te meka o te te takoto he ki te taata, kahore te fafauraa, e kore e te hanga i aunoa i ia rere i roto i te tahi atu i te huarahi.

Ki te katoa atu mahi i roto i te pai, ka ai tukua atu ki te hononga nui ki a koutou i muri i te meka, e ia kia kore.

Tika koe ki te kia rite.

Ahau e kaha tohutohu mo koutou ake haumaru mea e taria ra ano ia e ai ta e te hinaaro nei ia ki te hei o koutou hoa.

Te he i te wahine motuhake e kore e te auraa e kore koutou e hiahia ana ki te tangata. Tenei te noa te tikanga e whai koe i tou ake motuhake i a ia ngā ngākau nuitanga, me te koutou ora ake. E kore tetahi tangata e hiahia ana ki te kia anake te kawenga mō te hanga hari koe, engari me hoki koe ki te whakaatu i te tangata e koutou te pai ki a ia i roto i to outou oraraa. Te tākaro i uaua ki te whiwhi, i te wātea, me te ore anake te hanga i te wātea tangata whai koe. E kore te mea ia i muri i te hononga ki a koutou, ko ia anake i muri i te whaia.

Tenei he no te mea e kore e mutu koe te tākaro pakeke ki te tiki tenei i te mea noa, no te mea i te tangata nei i ngā ki te oaoa o te whaia e kore e he hiahia i roto i te hononga nui ki te timata ki te.

Ko ia noa i muri i te whaia ano takahia te wahine nei i tīmata te whai. Tenei tangata ko te teeki, me te wahine e ongo'i i te hiahia ki te tākaro pakeke ki te tiki kei te teeki kia rite ki te pai. Ki te mea ko koe te tākaro pakeke ki te tiki e koe te kukume i te ahua o te tangata kei te i muri i te wero. Ki te hiahia koe ki te tiki i te tangata e te titiro mo te hononga nui, kia koe ke faitotonu ki a ia, me kore e te tākaro i te kēmu. A, no te hiahia koe i te taata ki te faitotonu ki koe, hoatu ki a ia te haavare ore, me te ki te e ia reciprocates i roto i te ahua e mohio ana koe te mea e ia he kaitiaki. Ko e mo'oni, e faitotonú ko te wehiwehi, me te anake te pono māia wahine ka taea e hapai i i te nui o te pēhanga titau i te parau ti'a. Te paruru, i runga i te tahi atu i te ringa, ko te huru e kore matou t te maha ite i roto ia tatou iho. Ko te ahoaho, e pei nga wahine ki te tākaro pakeke ki te tiki. Na, ko nga mea tino noa te iwi tohutohu a, no te te tangata e ngana ana ki te meinga te tangata ki te mahi ki te hononga nui. E ki te ki tetahi mea atu haere mai ki te ngakau. Waiho i te kōrero, pātai, te whakautu i roto i te wāhanga kōrero i raro. Mahometa wahine e te oaoa, me te pai e kore matou t ki te tākaro i tēnei kēmu ki he tokomaha e matou ano he poka a, no to tatou i te takatāpui, hiahia ana matou anake e taea e ia te whai takoto ki te faaipoipo tatou i runga i to tatou karakia, i a ia ka waiho i te kotahi anake ki te whai takoto ki tona kotiro. Kara i hanga e tatou, ka homai ki a matou i tona ake pīrori ki te whai i taua pukapuka i to tatou tapu guaran tetahi e whai tika te whai i te taahiraa i te taahiraa, a ka waiho koe hari rite kore i te aroaro.

ngā mihi nui atu hoki tenei pou nui.

I ahau i te rota o ngā whakaaro i te tai'oraa i tenei e ahau, kia tika te hoatu ki te mahi tika atu.

E hiahia ana ahau ki te mohio me pehea ki te hanga i toku taata e hiahia ana ki te hononga nui ki ahau.

Ko tatou i te tika te teití, engari e hiahia ana ahau ki a ia ki te kia toku hoa. Tenei tuhinga, ko te tino āwhina ki ahau.

I te wai e kitea tona ake taumata

Mauruuru e koe enei ahua o te pou, kei te tonu fakalaumālie, me te hiahia ahau ki te pānui i te ihirangi kounga na ahau i hari ki te kitea e koe he maha pai wāhi i konei i roto i te pou, te tuhituhi, ko te noa nui, whakawhetai ki a koe mo te pou e whakaae ana ahau ki te mea i mea koe ki konei, rawa e pā ana ki te wahine te hunga e te tākaro pakeke ki te tiki, no te mea o to ratou ake ahoaho. Whakamahia ahau ki te kia rite ki te e rawa, me ahau kua ngaro i te rota o te pai nga tangata no te mea ko ahau te tākaro rawa i wātea ki a ratou. Toku o nāianei hoa, me te ahau i tino rerekē ngā hononga. E tatou i faitotonu ki ia atu, me te kore e te tākaro i te kēmu, me to tatou hononga i ko noa te faahiahia.

Ka korerotia e ia ki ahau i te timatanga e ia i rapu hoki i te hononga nui, me te hinaaro nei ia ki te tiki faaipoipo, me te tīmata i te utuafare i te hoê mahana.

E mohio ana ahau e kore e haere te reira ki te tupu tika atu.

Tatou ve been tahi mo te tau, me ia kua t whakaaro ano, engari e mohio ana ahau e ahau tika i ki te tatari me te kite, a e kore ahau e ahau i roto i te hohoro. A, no te te wa e tika, a ka tono ia, otiia e kore ahau t e hiahia ana ki te hoatu i tetahi pēhanga i runga i a ia, a e ko te aha i hanga to tatou hononga i pera whakamiharo. Tatou i te faaite i te tahi mau mea mīharo, me te wheako, me ia o tatou nei i to tatou iho oraraa, engari ko tatou i tino tata. I te tahi vahi i ahau hoha'a e pā ana ki te wahi tenei i te haere, me te ki te te haere ia ki te whakaaro hohoro, tena ko tenei ako ahau ki te akaanga me te tuku i to tatou auraa e te whakawhanake i fakanatula, whakawhetai ki a koutou oko, a koutou i ngā pukapuka e ka e ahau. Ahau te pupuri i haere mai hoki ki te ako atu no te mea e hiahia ana ahau ki te hanga i mohio e ahau ki te tonu toku whaiaro tupu na roto i te tai'oraa i to koutou mea. Ko ahau hari ki tenei mōhiohio, engari e hiahia ana ahau ētahi atu pārongo, kia pai te whakahou ake te mea mauruuru e koe Ēnei e tino pai te tohutohu i runga i pehea ki te hanga i te taata e hiahia ana ki te whai i te hononga ki a koutou. Ka aru ahau i a koutou tohutohu. Kahore ahau t tutaki te tangata o toku moe ano, engari ka mohio ahau ki ta ki te mahi, no te ahau tutaki ki a ia. E kore ahau t he hoa i teie nei, ko ahau te teití te tangata. Ka haere matou ki waho o te toru rā. E hiahia ana ahau ki te mohio ki te mea e ahau kia mahi ki te hanga ia ia te hiahia te hononga ki ahau. Ua haapii e ahau he rota, no roto i o koutou tohutohu, a he tika koe, te hunga katoa i nga mea i mea ki ahau, ina ka ui ahau ki toku hoa e pā ana ki te pehea i taea e ahau te hanga ia ia te hiahia te hononga nui. Tino mauruuru e ahau to koutou tāuru i te reira, me te tino awhina i ahau ki te kite i nga mea mārama.

Ka aru ahau i a koutou te tohutohu, me te kia mohio koe i te hua.

toku hoa kua tukua ki ahau, me kahore i ahau i t moe ki a ia i te po tuatahi tutaki ki a matou. Ahau e tatari ana mo ētahi marama i mua i tatou i te ka tupu. I mua i te whakamahia ahau ki te kia piri ki takatu rawa hohoro, me te tetahi o aua whanaungatanga roa. E hiahia ana ahau ki te pānui atu o koutou tohutohu i runga i pehea ki te hanga i te tangata e mahi hoki ki ahau. Tēnā tuhituhi atu e pā ana ki te reira. E ahau te pupuri e haere mai ana ki tō pae. Enei tohutohu e tino āwhina hoki ahau rite ahau tika tīmata ki te kite i i te taata hou, me te hiahia ki te hanga i te tino e te hinaaro nei ia i te hononga ki ahau, a e kore e tika i te tahi mea noa. Ahau ve kua whakarerea hoki tau i teie nei, a ko ahau tika tīmata ki te rā ano. Hoatu e ahau i te kōtaha i runga i te teití pae rongonui, me te tutaki i te rota o te pai nga tangata, engari tenei tetahi he tino motuhake hoki ahau, a e hiahia ana ahau ki te hanga i mohio e kore ahau t taringa ki runga ki a ia. Kia mau ki te tuku nui tuhinga. Ahau e puritia pānui. Hi, ahau te tika ka ki te mohio o tenei tangata. na ka mea ia, ko te titiro mo te hononga nui, me te hiahia ana ia ki te whānau me te koati, ka ui ahau ki a ia i reira ahau e tu ana, a ka korerotia e ia ki ahau i tona hoa, otiia e kore ahau t ite i te reira cos matou whakauaua te kite i tahi i te tahi, me te kitea e ahau e ahau ve rota o te te feaa i runga i a ia.